You are your friends…

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged, mostly because my last two post was exhausting, no emotionally exhausting!
I had to tell about a loved one lost and a near failed marriage. Most people come very close or experience these two situations in their lifetime.

I’ve done lots of reflecting over the last month and I’ve come to realize that, its only up to you determine how its going to work out in the end.
Hmmm ok,Β  some might think this is such a cheesy post but it’s what I want to say and I’m excited!

I also have amazing friends and family Β that supported me during this time. In fact I always had good friends, I choose my friends. They need to fall in a certain category….

do tell, you ask..
First and foremost, its imperative that they are more clever and intelligent than me, they are either more attractive than me OR equally as, they are broad minded,Β  they are loads of fun, they don’t judge, they dress well, they smell well, they make me laugh (oooh this is right up there!) and most importantly, they have to be humble individuals..

I have them all, and its explosive!

Then I have those that I don’t call friends per se but acquaintances, or family friends and family but they are equally special. A few of them stands out for me, and I’m almost convinced that they have no idea how I feel about them.

Lerene Watlington, you’ve always been such a rock! We are ages apart, but talking to you is like talking to myself( and it’s minimal, we would sometimes only talk 2 to 3 times a year!). You are an exceptional woman, beautiful, sexy, clever and humble..I adore you! You’ve made a difference in your life, and your steered the boat in a prosperous direction, with steel determination and that my friend, is what set you apart from the rest.

Tina Seale, I’ve always admired you from afar. I’m sure you surprised, to be acknowledged ( ok, calm down this is no Emmy Awards girl πŸ™‚ ) And it was important for me to tell people how I feel about you. You’re a phenomenal woman! You’re clever, extremely ambitious and you go for what you believe will create the life you want. You as straight as an arrow ( this quality I find very refreshing) and say it like it is, and I don’t believe you do small talk very well.


Nazeema Thebus, you are relentless (yirre and tiring…shhh dont tell!), unorthodox verby, opinionated, and always, always ready to help!!!You have endless energy and you don’t give up. You came into my life with a bang(literally mos )and it was a stormy and an exciting ride. You have a brain like those clever people, watsisname…Einstein himself and it’s constantly turning like a big wheel grrrrbrrrboom!, every now and then coming up for air! Believe it or not, I took lots from you and you’ve always been an inspiration. You’ve been through the mill ( ooh lots of us did) but you’ve came out tops! If I think of a happy and contented ,well balanced person, then I think of you. You’re extremely perceptive and you know everything of anything but also open to always learn from others. “You’re not made to break”…says Whitney πŸ™‚

My friends….Gosh, where do I start, you’re all so special πŸ™‚


Vida Hartogh, you’ve played a pivotal role in my upbringing, and boy were you one strict “mom”! You’ve taught me so many good values and qualities. You never, never have anything bad to say about anyone. You were the one who taught me valuable things and you’re one of the reasons why I don’t give up easily, why I am a good mother, why I can cook and clean (shu, you were like Hitler himself when it comes to cleaniless!) And most importantly, you’re the most humble , non judgemental person I know and I wish many times that I can take you out of the ghettos, if nothing else. And remember, you did the best you could, and still do. May God bless you with all your heart desires, I love you, you are my best friend forever!

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Beverly Bell..Yirre Bev, where do I start..the first thing that comes to mind is your beautiful smile! Thank God, you’re my ray of sunshine, always was, always will be. We have so much in common, thus we will always be buddies. You such a beautiful , sensitive and humble person and you always have time for me. We can talk and laugh for hours! You were my rock sooo many times to mention and those times are unforgettable, I love you babes!


Faiqah Achmat..You are my eloquent, sexy, intelligent, matured, and beautiful friend! I wish I was like you. You don’t get fazed easily, you have such an incredible and patient nature, my god , its what I admire the most. Your smile lights up the darkest of days. You are such a good daughter to your parents, and of those that appreciate the fact that you’re blessed to still have parents, its very very admirable. You always have a listening ear and not easily influenced and always objective. Most importantly, you’ve helped me with my achievements, gosh it was funny heeheee, and how you struggled with me solving for x ( I still don’t get it…! Pffft ) I will Always Love You, and We Every Woman at a Heartbreak Hotel! I’m sooo grateful to call you my best buddy! I can always count on you through thick and thin πŸ™‚


wp-1454997408000.jpegAliyah Conrad…hmmm you remind me of a beautiful rosebud, turned full blossom πŸ™‚ You are such an amazing, intelligent, fun verby! , sexy woman and extremely humble. You make me laugh, I can share my deepest sorrows and happiness with you and you’ll take it to your grave, Thank you! You’re the best mom ever despite doing it alone and against all odds. You deserve only the best, and He knows and remember, good things comes to those who waits. Turn the wheel in another direction, you never know, the road might be strewn with candy , chocolates and a firm ass πŸ™‚ I’m crazy about you!


Agnes Charles. You will stay my beautiful chocolate πŸ™‚ You’re my friend that can dance till the break of dawn, meisie! Never again will I have a friend like you. You are sensitive, intelligent and a very good mom. You always hand out compliments easily and honestly and never afraid to take constructive criticism. You’ve been through the mill and back, but you’ve always been a fighter, I admire you for that. I always have loads of fun with you and you can talk shit, more than what anyone can actually shit! You remember my birthdays, you remember Eid..I feel lost if I don’t get that call, Thank you Agnes for being my loyal friend. Love, love, love you!!

Mymoema Thebus..I love you to the moon and back and I will go to the ends of the earth for you, literally! You have a heart of Gold and I treasure you with all my heart. I get emotional just thinking where we would have been without you. Shukran for being our pillar and everyone else’s.

Nazley Thebus…You’ve been holding my hand through bad, sad and good times. You’ve always been that shoulder I can lean on and the one I can laugh with. You’ve always listened, give advice again and again. I feel the duah’s you’ve made for me, Shukran. Inshallah, we will take that spiritual journey when the time is right.

Shanaaz Isaacs, Shukran sis for always being so honest and extremely open minded and for loving me for who I am. We might not have grown up together but we are two peas in a pod. You might not have the degree that I have, but you have the soul of a wise one, born a century ago! I’m so grateful for having you as my sister. God works in mysterious ways and it’s proven over and over again, I came to love you and can’t see you as not part of my life!


Ayesha Adams, I miss your face! Thank you for playing an integral part in getting my degree off the ground! If it wasn’t for you, I’d still be stuck on the first two modules eeeek!

Jules, You’ve always brightened my day by your honest and open point of view and most importantly, you’ve made me laugh! Happy Birthday on your wedding πŸ™‚ You are unforgettable.

Nadiema Vigeland, Shukran for being there for me during the darkest days of my life, I will always remember and be grateful, Mwah


Naomi Van Rooy..what can I say, we childhood friends, saam opgegroei! And you will always stay my friend, no matter what.

Felecia Dominic vd Westhuizen and Faldelah Phigeland, your are my oldest chommies since primary school. Felicia, you were the cleverest girl in the class πŸ™‚ and you always had a smile. We use to spend hours at the library, talk about books and we share the passion for reading πŸ™‚ Faldelah, I remember we used to sit on your bed talking about boys and stuff heehee. You are beautiful inside and outside and reminds me of a ray of sunshine πŸ™‚ . You never have anything bad to say of anyone. I wish you good health Inshallah.

And there you have it, in a nutshell. Everyone has to have a friend! You get the ones who only listens, who nods, who are opinionated, who gives advice, who doesn’t give advice.

You cannot be a friend if you cannot be honest, you will be a friend forever if you battle the storm… I am blessed πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Stay true and real!