Virginia Carol Le Roux

The things I remember the most about you is your smile..your inner beauty,  the tip of your head to the side when you spoke, your soft spoken voice, the shape of your fingers and the shine in your hair..

I took you to the beach for some fun, unknowingly it would be my last opportunity.
We going to miss you..

I had the opportunity to sit at your feet during your last days, unknown to all of us and I thank God I was granted that.
We going to miss you..

Sitting around the table, full house, good company, good laughs and your endless calmness, your forgiving nature, your giving nature,  is what we going to miss..

We look back and we say…”if only we knew, we would do things differently” If only I stayed longer, if only I combed your hair, if only I said ” I love you too”, if only I answered your phone call…But I thank God for the short time I was given to get to know you. The beautiful soul..

I see how much you cared for Vida and she’s going to miss you the most. You were there when she needed a friend, thank you. And yet you granted her that opportunity to spend your last days with her, thank you.
She’s lost a good friend

We make plans, but God has his own plans for us. The ones left behind are grieving your passing. We ask, why so sudden..You were so young, you were a good person, a good friend, gone too soon..why why why..

You sent me a beautiful message and every time I play it over in my head, I want to cry. I want to cry for the loss of a beautiful soul, the loss of a good friend, the loss of the most beautiful smile ever..
I am going to miss you Carol
I said to you “get better and let’s go watch the Manhattans” you looked at me and I didn’t understand that look. If only I knew you were telling me that you won’t be around.
You told me “be happy!”….Thank you Carol for your infinite wisdom.

I pray to God that your children and Phillip find peace. I pray that we all find the peace and acceptance. You were suffering and God called you home. He decided he needed you more than what we do.

There’s a vice around my chest, it’s by far the hardest thing to lose a good friend because good friends don’t just come around. It’s a lifelong bond, laughs, dancing, giggles, jokes, sadness, disagreements and unconditional love… We going to miss you Carol

You were hurting and we have to be less selfish and thank God for taking you out of that discomfort. We need to accept that you are where you should be, and because it’s the right time. If only we could be this accepting..If only we accept that all of this was written already..it was written that we’ll only have you for a certain time, you would only laugh, dance and giggle with us until a certain time.

I pray that you rest in peace. Don’t worry about us, let us mourn you Carol. Let us cry for the loss of a very good friend.

And thank you for allowing me the short and awesome time with you. Thank you for listening and nodding. Thank you for always smiling. May you smile from up above…

We going to miss you Carol..go on and be the smiling Angel looking down on us. And we will celebrate your life because that is what you’d want us to do. Nothing will fill this void, this loss but we will hold onto your beautiful memory and the memories we’ve shared.

Rest in Peace my good friend..

To My Best friend

My Serendipity

My Serendipity

 

Like honey and bees

Like a cool summer breeze

Like a hand fits a glove

You are made for my Love

My friend, together we make perfect sense

I still remember seeing your scrawny ass for the first time. You were wearing a blue jersey  and a black pants. All skittish, and hardly made eye contact. I immediately knew I’m going to like you but that it will be a challenge to engage with you because you a typical Taurian…don’t trust easily. But the persistent Capricorn won you over. And I still thank my lucky stars 🙂 🙂

You had high hair… heeeheee

Thin waist, nice shapely legs, pearly white teeth and perky ass 🙂 A more perfect behind I’ve never seen again, ever 🙂

We became two peas in a pod :-

We shared everything, well except for clothes. You had no size and I was huge in comparison 🙂

I remember our giggles in the attic
The sharing of life’s lessons
How we regularly stripped Cavendish
And dining at the finest, strapped in the finest 🙂
Heels klicking , funky and always smiling, reveling in our steadfast bond that not many have the opportunity to experience.And yet we have such a big age gap, but never was it visible because you have a great mind, a matured mind that always think out of the box!

I was there when you were sad, you were there when I was sad. Although it’s hard to see when you are. You have this innate ability to always smile. If you didn’t,  then I’d know something is wrong. You are not a talker – I loved/love that about you. We could be sitting next to each other and not say a word and it will feel like we having the longest conversation ever.

Catching up felt like Making up…Always good 🙂 Love, love

We would silently watch a movie and boom would start shouting and directing the movie until the end! There would be non stop laughing and hysterical giggles of how stupid the victim was and what we would have done instead!!

We both have an extremely vivid imagination!
I say ” I have toothache”
You say ” oh…so the minions are walking up the stairs into your mouth armed with ice picks”
I say  “yeah..and with precise rhythm they start to carve their way..bang bang bang ”
You say ” with lights on their foreheads, they decide to expand..forging ahead in the darkness, searching for new territory…bang bang bang”
I say ” stop! I can’t take this pain anymore!”

Lol, and that’s how we rolled…completely crazy!

I remember my V6 and how we used to speed  through the roads, Whitney blaring at top volume and we singing to “Heartbreak Hotel” – “It’s not right, but it’s ok” !!!
How we frantically would look for Na-eem in between the clothing rails, on all fours chasing down the imaginary dog – oh my gosh! How funny was that 🙂

The bonnet could hold the weight LOL

 

We used to come back from another successful shopping spree and lay on your bed. You on your side with your hand under your chin..I’m on my stomach, legs swinging and we would share thoughts, advice…laugh..you were always so easy to laugh with!

Gucci
and
Intuition

(Oh my gosh, let’s not talk about the stream of gifts and how we got it and what role you’ve played in it..we would laugh about it until our stomach hurts 🙂 ) OMG, I can’t look!

That was our signature. Gucci has never smelled so good on anyone else. And whenever I buy my perfume, I think of you.

You have such a good heart. We went through a big storm and I knew since then that if we survive that, we would survive anything!

 

I shared my biggest secret with you, amongst others and I that is how much I treasure your friendship. Because I know, you’ll take it to your grave.

You’ve never been one for small talk and shit and I value that immensely. I love you Fafs. You one in a million friend.

 

I only want happiness for you. You needn’t have to pull at the shorter end of the stick.. you needn’t have to wait around for anyone. You should be adored and carried on a platter strewn with gold dust. You should be put on a pedestal and be preserved. You should have trillions of minions serving at your beck and call. You are made to love. Demand it and conquer it ! You are a Love magnet 🙂

You were one of the best things that ever happened to me!

Me, Faiqah and Cindy…we looked as good as the spectacular view 🙂

You’re my Serendipity
You the calm and I’m the storm
I talk, you’ve always listened
You don’t judge, you give advice
You have a brilliant brain! Thank God for putting you in my path. You’re one of the sexiest woman I know, with impeccable taste.

I will love and treasure you forever..

Call on me and I’ll be there, don’t be afraid. Please believe me when I say…you can count on me

This I wrote for you with lots of LOVE 🙂

Kami

 

You are your friends…

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged, mostly because my last two post was exhausting, no emotionally exhausting!
I had to tell about a loved one lost and a near failed marriage. Most people come very close or experience these two situations in their lifetime.

I’ve done lots of reflecting over the last month and I’ve come to realize that, its only up to you determine how its going to work out in the end.
Hmmm ok,  some might think this is such a cheesy post but it’s what I want to say and I’m excited!

I also have amazing friends and family  that supported me during this time. In fact I always had good friends, I choose my friends. They need to fall in a certain category….

do tell, you ask..
First and foremost, its imperative that they are more clever and intelligent than me, they are either more attractive than me OR equally as, they are broad minded,  they are loads of fun, they don’t judge, they dress well, they smell well, they make me laugh (oooh this is right up there!) and most importantly, they have to be humble individuals..

I have them all, and its explosive!

Then I have those that I don’t call friends per se but acquaintances, or family friends and family but they are equally special. A few of them stands out for me, and I’m almost convinced that they have no idea how I feel about them.

Lerene Watlington, you’ve always been such a rock! We are ages apart, but talking to you is like talking to myself( and it’s minimal, we would sometimes only talk 2 to 3 times a year!). You are an exceptional woman, beautiful, sexy, clever and humble..I adore you! You’ve made a difference in your life, and your steered the boat in a prosperous direction, with steel determination and that my friend, is what set you apart from the rest.

Tina Seale, I’ve always admired you from afar. I’m sure you surprised, to be acknowledged ( ok, calm down this is no Emmy Awards girl 🙂 ) And it was important for me to tell people how I feel about you. You’re a phenomenal woman! You’re clever, extremely ambitious and you go for what you believe will create the life you want. You as straight as an arrow ( this quality I find very refreshing) and say it like it is, and I don’t believe you do small talk very well.

Nazeema Thebus, you are relentless (yirre and tiring…shhh dont tell!), unorthodox verby, opinionated, and always, always ready to help!!!You have endless energy and you don’t give up. You came into my life with a bang(literally mos )and it was a stormy and an exciting ride. You have a brain like those clever people, watsisname…Einstein himself and it’s constantly turning like a big wheel grrrrbrrrboom!, every now and then coming up for air! Believe it or not, I took lots from you and you’ve always been an inspiration. You’ve been through the mill ( ooh lots of us did) but you’ve came out tops! If I think of a happy and contented ,well balanced person, then I think of you. You’re extremely perceptive and you know everything of anything but also open to always learn from others. “You’re not made to break”…says Whitney 🙂

My friends….Gosh, where do I start, you’re all so special 🙂

Vida Hartogh, you’ve played a pivotal role in my upbringing, and boy were you one strict “mom”! You’ve taught me so many good values and qualities. You never, never have anything bad to say about anyone. You were the one who taught me valuable things and you’re one of the reasons why I don’t give up easily, why I am a good mother, why I can cook and clean (shu, you were like Hitler himself when it comes to cleaniless!) And most importantly, you’re the most humble , non judgemental person I know and I wish many times that I can take you out of the ghettos, if nothing else. And remember, you did the best you could, and still do. May God bless you with all your heart desires, I love you, you are my best friend forever!

Beverly Bell..Yirre Bev, where do I start..the first thing that comes to mind is your beautiful smile! Thank God, you’re my ray of sunshine, always was, always will be. We have so much in common, thus we will always be buddies. You such a beautiful , sensitive and humble person and you always have time for me. We can talk and laugh for hours! You were my rock sooo many times to mention and those times are unforgettable, I love you babes!

Faiqah Achmat..You are my eloquent, sexy, intelligent, matured, and beautiful friend! I wish I was like you. You don’t get fazed easily, you have such an incredible and patient nature, my god , its what I admire the most. Your smile lights up the darkest of days. You are such a good daughter to your parents, and of those that appreciate the fact that you’re blessed to still have parents, its very very admirable. You always have a listening ear and not easily influenced and always objective. Most importantly, you’ve helped me with my achievements, gosh it was funny heeheee, and how you struggled with me solving for x ( I still don’t get it…! Pffft ) I will Always Love You, and We Every Woman at a Heartbreak Hotel! I’m sooo grateful to call you my best buddy! I can always count on you through thick and thin 🙂

 

Aliyah Conrad…hmmm you remind me of a beautiful rosebud, turned full blossom 🙂 You are such an amazing, intelligent, fun verby! , sexy woman and extremely humble. You make me laugh, I can share my deepest sorrows and happiness with you and you’ll take it to your grave, Thank you! You’re the best mom ever despite doing it alone and against all odds. You deserve only the best, and He knows and remember, good things comes to those who waits. Turn the wheel in another direction, you never know, the road might be strewn with candy , chocolates and a firm ass 🙂 I’m crazy about you!

Agnes Charles. You will stay my beautiful chocolate 🙂 You’re my friend that can dance till the break of dawn, meisie! Never again will I have a friend like you. You are sensitive, intelligent and a very good mom. You always hand out compliments easily and honestly and never afraid to take constructive criticism. You’ve been through the mill and back, but you’ve always been a fighter, I admire you for that. I always have loads of fun with you and you can talk shit, more than what anyone can actually shit! You remember my birthdays, you remember Eid..I feel lost if I don’t get that call, Thank you Agnes for being my loyal friend. Love, love, love you!!

Mymoema Thebus..I love you to the moon and back and I will go to the ends of the earth for you, literally! You have a heart of Gold and I treasure you with all my heart. I get emotional just thinking where we would have been without you. Shukran for being our pillar and everyone else’s.

Nazley Thebus…You’ve been holding my hand through bad, sad and good times. You’ve always been that shoulder I can lean on and the one I can laugh with. You’ve always listened, give advice again and again. I feel the duah’s you’ve made for me, Shukran. Inshallah, we will take that spiritual journey when the time is right.

Shanaaz Isaacs, Shukran sis for always being so honest and extremely open minded and for loving me for who I am. We might not have grown up together but we are two peas in a pod. You might not have the degree that I have, but you have the soul of a wise one, born a century ago! I’m so grateful for having you as my sister. God works in mysterious ways and it’s proven over and over again, I came to love you and can’t see you as not part of my life!

Ayesha Adams, I miss your face! Thank you for playing an integral part in getting my degree off the ground! If it wasn’t for you, I’d still be stuck on the first two modules eeeek!

Jules, You’ve always brightened my day by your honest and open point of view and most importantly, you’ve made me laugh! Happy Birthday on your wedding 🙂 You are unforgettable.

Nadiema Vigeland, Shukran for being there for me during the darkest days of my life, I will always remember and be grateful, Mwah

Naomi Van Rooy..what can I say, we childhood friends, saam opgegroei! And you will always stay my friend, no matter what.

Felecia Dominic vd Westhuizen and Faldelah Phigeland, your are my oldest chommies since primary school. Felicia, you were the cleverest girl in the class 🙂 and you always had a smile. We use to spend hours at the library, talk about books and we share the passion for reading 🙂 Faldelah, I remember we used to sit on your bed talking about boys and stuff heehee. You are beautiful inside and outside and reminds me of a ray of sunshine 🙂 . You never have anything bad to say of anyone. I wish you good health Inshallah.

And there you have it, in a nutshell. Everyone has to have a friend! You get the ones who only listens, who nods, who are opinionated, who gives advice, who doesn’t give advice.

You cannot be a friend if you cannot be honest, you will be a friend forever if you battle the storm… I am blessed 🙂 🙂

Stay true and real!

Kami